In her hospital whisper - 'I'm dying'
her eyes tearing - her long days breath sour
tugging and tumbling in the quietest hour
'there, there' - like to a baby I'm cooing ~
how do I comfort her when I am leaving?
picture bills stacked on the kitchen counter
the third hinge - should I remind her now or
wait to tell her the side gate needs mending?
'there, there' - my words touch her here
in this world and me tasting the thought
of someone else comforting her when I am gone ~
words sink in - I hear myself say - 'there, there'
stiffen at the emptiness time has bought
starring at the wall - lachrymose and mournful ~
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In 2006 I lost a very dear friend to cancer
I miss her daily
So many days and nights I sat by her side when she was in hospice
I wrote this poem the day before my friend Mary left me
She was a treasured friend and is now a treasured memory ~
such a beautiful tribute to a treasured friend, alive in your memory and now alive in ours...
ReplyDeleteThanks so much, Cat.
DeleteYou are so kind. xo
Good memories never fade away. I am glad to see you keep your blog breathing in your words.
ReplyDeletePriya, such a lovely surprise to see you here.
DeleteI have missed you.
Known you for sometime now, since I began blogging in '06.
So beautiful Margie, so kind. May her memory always be for blessing as some day yours and mine will be too.
ReplyDeleteLaura,
DeleteThank you very much.
Your kind words are appreciated.
The wait and then the goodbye - I have sat in that seat, too, Margie - and I still remember. A melancholy poem - love the gate analogy.
ReplyDeleteBarb, being with Mary was when she was dying was so hard for me but when I look back on it now, it was a blessing to me to have been there for her.
DeleteThanks for your visit and kind words.
This poem made a flood of people who I have loved and lost come flooding back through my consciousness.
ReplyDeleteVan, I hope the memories of all of them are good memories.
DeleteThanks for coming by.
oh its so hard to know what to say in that moment and its hard for me to even think about what i want said to mine when i am gone...the thought of not being able to comfort them through it...ugh...
ReplyDeleteugh, is the right word, Brian on not being able to be of comfort.
Deleteyou have had a hard last few days, I feel for you.
A sad and beautiful poem.
ReplyDeleteMany thanks, ladyfi.
DeleteYou're a very compassionate lady. You write incomparably well of an experience that, for me, is too intense for analysis. My compliments.
ReplyDeleteGeo, your kind words mean a lot to me.
DeleteThank you.
Your presence, your warmth, you, that's all she needed, there are no words but Love is felt, I'm sure she smiles down at you and protects you in her own way
ReplyDeleteLorraine, I do feel the presence of Mary in my life.
DeleteShe was such a dear friend,
Oh my, how we laughed together.
And I miss being called 'my little Magie Pagie"
x
Hi Margie,
ReplyDeleteThis is a very sad poem. I am sure you miss your friend so much. It's the worst losing people close to us.
Lydia, it's very hard to lose those we love.
DeleteThanks for visiting.
Words fail me, Margie...so very heart-rending.
ReplyDeleteI feel your loss in my heart xxx
Ygraine, you are a dear.
DeleteThank you. xx
Hi Margie,
ReplyDeleteThis is a very sad poem. I am sure you miss your friend so much. It's the worst losing people close to us.
Hi Margie,
DeleteI Just noticed my comment posted twice for some reason sorry about that.
Beautiful, yet so sad. I feel a kindred heart, having lost a dear friend recently.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, thank you.
DeleteI am sorry that you last a dear friend recently.
I hope her memory will always be a blessing.
Olá,
ReplyDeleteseu escrito é de enorme dedicação com sentimento de amizade .
Abraço
ag
Ag, obrigado ... thank you.
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This is indeed a greatest dedication I say. Memories wipe of the years we cover.. Is it not? Good wishes!
ReplyDeletePranavam, thanks so much.
DeleteGood wishes to you.
There is no replacing someone you love. Your heart aches in a thousand ways. A dreadful sense of helplessness cuts into your whole being.
ReplyDeletenothing profound, thanks for the visit.
DeleteYour comment is appreciated.
Sorry to hear about your friend, my friend.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Lon
DeleteThis is a very powerful poem. I resist to say that I loved it (even though I did) because it came from a place you would rather, I'm sure, it didn't exist.
ReplyDeleteThanks.
Greetings from London.
A Cuban In London, many thanks on the thoughtful and kind comment.
DeleteIt is much appreciated.
I'm sorry about your loss. Your poem is so beautiful. I'm often at a loss for words, yours are so elegant.
ReplyDeleteLisa, your kindness means a lot.
DeleteThank you.
Your friend, maybe with a serene look and gentle smile reading this…and what a touching tribute…
ReplyDeletedeeps, oh, that made me smile.
Deletethank you very much.
Certainly a treasured memory, consider that she (probably) is also even NOW a treasured friend who is closer than ever before, when she used a body to live with your friendship.
ReplyDeletePEACE!
Steve, your words brought comfort.
DeleteThank you.
So sorry for the loss of your friend - but how wonderful that you gave her the gift of your presence as she made the journey from this world to the next...
ReplyDeleteLeslie, thank you.
DeleteIt was also a gift to myself being with my friend as she left this world.
A most treasured gift.
Hi Margie,
ReplyDeleteI can understand the pain n depth of your words...
Very well expressed..
Samy..
Thank you, Samy.
DeleteWhat a beautiful tribute to your friend. I can tell you hold memories of her close, a treasure in your heart.
ReplyDeleteJanel, thank you.
Deletethose memories of my friend are truly a treasure in my heart.
She was such a wonderful friend that loved me dearly as I loved her.
Sitting by a dying friend, not knowing what to say or do to confort her - this is the kind of experience we never forget.
ReplyDeleteYour poem reminds us of our helplessness in those hard moments,and it leaves us sad , yet appreciative of your compassion for your friend.
Duta, so glad to see you here today.
DeleteThank you for taking the time to visit and your comment is much appreciated.
I am so sorry for your loss Margie!! So horrible! The poem in honor of your friend, is truly beautiful and so meaningful! Big Hugs!
ReplyDeleteStacy, thank you.
DeleteYou are kind. xx
Margie, you gave your friend the most wonderful present in this poem. You gave her Love.
ReplyDeleteVery, very beautiful poem, Margie! And very powerful!! It touched my heart deeply.
A warm hug from Kaya.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear friend, Mary, Margie. Irreplaceable, but always in our hearts.
ReplyDeleteSorry to hear that. A beautiful tribute. It must be so hard to loose a good friend and I am sure she stays forever in your heart.
ReplyDeleteThis is a beautiful post. And so heartbreaking. I'm sorry about your friend, Mary. There are no right words for these types of tragic moments. And no matter how much time has passed, our heart still aches. I hope she is resting in peace.
ReplyDeletesad and touching... to know you're losing someone dear and not be able to do anything about it is a terrible thing...
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