Friday, June 30, 2006

FRIENDS

The happiest conversation is when
there is no competition
no vanity
but just a calm quiet
interchange of sentiments.
-Samuel Johnson.

I was thinking just after they left,"why didn't you go with them stupid."
"They" are my husband and son. They left for Denver early this morning
my son has a baseball tournament there this week-end.
Soon as they were gone I immediately had this great sense of sadness come over me.
I knew right away... I shoud have gone...
I was thinking,"I do not want to be alone here tonight"
I was missing my friend that died recently... I wanted so much to call her.
I was missing the silly and funny name she used to call me.
I was missing the sound of her voice when she would say
How is my "Margie Pargie?"
What was I do? I cried... but just felt worse.
Ouch... my heart was breaking!
I wanted my family back.... I needed them.
Then it came to me... call my far away friend.
She will listen.
So, I did. I just got off the phone with her.
I am feeling much better.
Because of a wonderful friend that just listened.
I will get out and be with Nature now.
That will also help.

But, thank you... my friend... for being there!
for listening to my pain
how I wish you were here though!

Friends

Isn't it nice to telephone
a friend
when the house
is too quiet
or your heart
is breaking.

As your words
flow
tension
flows out
with them.

Unhurried
we share
each other's
lives.

Talking
to a close friend
is as
soothing
as balm.

We know
someone
cares
about us.

There is no
competition
no pretense
only the calm
quiet
interchange
of feelings.

I am some better
now
but I might
need
you later
I know you
will be
there.

43 comments:

  1. aww, i'm sorry about ur friend...
    are u ok?
    yes tomorrow is the wedding!

    here is my little advice, if u feel sad again, u can always write poetry...
    that's always cheer me up:)

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  2. /The happiest conversation is when
    there is no competition/
    Totally agreed.
    It is hard to loose a friend.
    /We know
    someone
    cares
    about us/
    Ther are angels who take care. I have comeacross such situations in my life.
    When I was in college in US, I wished my mom will send her warm wishes from heaven. I was crying inside my heart and ther was a lady waiting for the bus, just like that said, Good Luck on your first day and your studies too.
    I felt my moms presence thru' her.
    Donno worry. Angels do watch us and care when we need.

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  3. I am so glad that your friend is there for you. True friends are there even if they are close or far away. If you feel that way about your friend, I'm sure she feels same about you. True friendship is a beautiful thing. Here's to wonderful friendships!

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  4. I am always sorry about hearing bad news.

    I will be back to read more.
    Thanks for visiting my blog.

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  5. Enjoyed the quote about conversation. Sorry to hear about your friend. Thank you for sharing your feelings and poetry. It will get better again. :^)

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  6. Beautiful post.

    Friendships are priceless. I've had the same best friend for 30 yrs. I don't know what I'd do without her. This reminded me that I've been a little too focused on my own stuff lately and need to make room for some quality time with her.

    Thank you.

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  7. Thank God for real friends. Never have to explain why your bothered or upset, they'll just listen and love you.

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  8. Lovely poem and personal story. Thanks for both and for letting yourself hang out there. Helps others to do the same.

    I sit in quiet meditation as the sun proudly marches into my day.

    Weekend blessings.

    Don

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  9. hey,
    i wanted to stop by and thank you for viviting my blog..

    man I am sorry your feeling so down, its nice to have a frined to talk to , it helps get you thru those rough patches. sorry about your friend that passed away, that must be hard..

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  10. Thanks for stopping by again 999. While I haven't experienced directly what you are going through, I have lost touch with loved ones and when I was younger, my Grandpa died - he was very important to me. It took me 20 years to grieve for his death. And it still hurts to think he is gone, and all the things I might have shared with him as I grew older, but it's his life that I want to remember. The beauty and love we shared while he was here left a lasting impression. And I am learning that I can still love him even though he is not here. I wanted to share that experience with you.
    Best wishes to you 999.
    Steve

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  11. Don't know just how it works for others, but when I've lost someone, it seems like being alone for long periods of time isn't the best. I end up having plenty of time to process the event without that, because depending on how close the person was to me, for weeks, months, or years, my mind goes back to the person anyway at the least opportunity, like after going to bed at night.

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  12. Thanks to all of the kind and special people that responded to this somewhat maudlin post.

    kai...priya...choices...jac...steve
    lisa...kathi...don...bossy britches
    and darius.
    I usually do not reveal a lot about my personal life... but, I did yesterday. It did help to express how I was feeling.
    And, having the wonderful friend
    I wrote about in my poem .. was
    my "Appreciation and wonder of
    my day" (every day I always try
    to find something in my day
    to appreciate and be in wonder
    of.)
    All of your very thoughtful
    comments were a great help also.
    Steve... thanks for sharing that
    personal story.
    darius... I am taking your words
    to heart. Spending too
    much time alone is not
    always the best... so,
    I am off on a hiking
    adventure today.

    Blessings to all of you!
    Have a wonderful week-end!
    Margie

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  13. Samuru999...So sorry to hear about your friend's passing. A true friend is very hard to lose. May blessings of peace and love be with you and your friend's spirit.

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  14. a beautiful tribute to friendship!
    sorry about the loss...

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  15. polana,
    Thank you for the kind words.

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  16. Sending you lots of hugs from Boston :)
    Friends are so important...they've really helped me get through some difficult situations recently. The ones who are loyal and true are rare to find, but once you do, it's an unconditional love.

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  17. Hi Margie. I can imagine the closeness you must have had with your friend. Lots of love and pain in life, no?
    May you be surrounded by all the love and support you want and need. Many blessings..

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  18. robyn,
    Thanks so much for the hugs...
    We can never have enough of
    hugs... one of the things I
    am really missing is those
    wonderful hugs I always got
    from my dear friend.
    I will always remember those
    sweet and tender hugs!
    Yes, the friends who are loyal
    and true are rare... but once
    you have that kind of
    friendship... it is a joy to
    our hearts.

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  19. steve,
    Thank you for your kind and
    supportive words.
    Many Blessings to you also!
    Margie

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  20. Isn't it interesting to think you may not have reached out to your distant friend had you gone on the trip and what great rewards you reaped by reaching out to her.

    Even tho your friend is not here physically she has left you with wonderful memories, memories which can seem very real and alive.

    Wonderful thoughts in your writing.

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  21. Yes.. Friends are the best... blessings beyond comprehension really... sorry for your loss!

    Om Shanti...
    Kathleen

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  22. top cat,
    yes, if I had gone on the trip,
    I would not have reached out to
    my friend... and would have missed
    a lot. Good thoughts there.
    And, yes the wonderful memories I
    have of my friend make her very real deep within my heart.
    Thanks for the nice words.

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  23. kathleen,
    Welcome to my blog.
    Thanks for the nice words.
    And, it is nice to have a visit
    from anothe person from
    Colorado.

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  24. that photo was after the wedding....it was beautiful...
    the wedding was emotional....i had my hair like that all day....

    thank u.....

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  25. im sure ur goin thru a rough patch, but this too shall pass.. so cheer up buddy. You are a beautiful n strong person, with a lovely family, nothing can bring you down. hugs n love

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  26. kandykane,
    You are so sweet!
    Today is much better than
    yesterday. I am lucky I do
    have such a great family.
    And, all the kind and gentle
    people who have responded to
    my post (like you) have helped
    with their support. That is
    very special to me.
    hugs n love to you too!

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  27. I am sorry about your friend. Its times like this that we need friends. Thank god for them. A big hug to you.

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  28. The essence of a TRUE FRIEND...They just hear us out and we hear them like our life's our the same...Really sorry about the friend you had close to you...The poem was wonderful Margie. Nice of you to stop by my blog and you can have my shoulder any time you want it. I have heard its great!! :) :)

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  29. Friends are one of life's most precious keepsakes that we enshrine in our heart as Longfellow would say...

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  30. starry nights,
    Yes, we need friends to get us
    through the hard times. I do not
    know what I would have done without this very dear friend I have turned to in the loss of my friend that died.
    She has been such a comfort.
    I do thank God for her!
    Thank you so much for your kind
    words.
    I send a big hug to you also!

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  31. scribblez to wakeup,
    Thank you for the kind words.
    Another shoulder to lean upon!
    I am sure it is a shoulder of
    strength and compassion.
    I will visit you again soon.
    Blessings!

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  32. kuan gung,
    Thanks for stopping by again...
    and leaving those wonderful
    words on friendship.

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  33. Happiest talk is when their is pure silence

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  34. i'm always called a sweetie..so i don't know...
    i'll probably see the fireworks

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  35. Best friends are not the ones that share your happiness but are the ones that makes you happy in sadness. Beautiful post. Very touching. Lovely thought to end the post. Take care!!

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  36. ricky,
    Thanks for visiting my blog.
    Such true words you speak:
    "Friends make you happy
    in sad times."
    That is what true friendship
    is all about.
    Thanks for the kind words
    about my post.
    Please come visit again.

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  37. abdullah,
    Thanks for stopping by.
    You said, "Happiest talk is
    when there is pure
    silence."

    With true friends, we do not
    always have to be engaged in
    idle chatter. We are able to
    communicate through the silence.

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  38. "The happiest conversation is when
    there is no competition
    no vanity
    but just a calm quiet
    interchange of sentiments."

    So true!!

    Thanks for droppin @ my blog!


    GBU
    Arti

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  39. arti honrao,
    And thank you for stopping by
    to visit my blog.
    Everyday, I find the most
    amazing and gifted artists
    in this blogging world.
    You are one of them.
    I will be back often.

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  40. I'm impressed with your site, very nice graphics!
    »

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